“Never ignore those who love and care for you because one day you may realise you have lost the moon while counting the stars.”

Some people are afraid to love. And can we blame them? When you love someone, truly love them, you lay your heart open. You let them inside a part of you and you become vulnerable because from henceforth they can hurt you. And when they hurt, it can be devastating. It leaves you naked and exposed, wondering what you did to make them want to hurt you like that. And for some people who are hurting, they may even ask themselves; what is wrong with me that no one can love me? To have it happen once is bad enough but to have it repeated? Who the hell in their right mind would not be terrified of that?

Love is always new regardless of whether we love once, twice, or a dozen times in our life. It can consign us to heaven or hell. Is it worth it when it could mean hours, days, weeks of disappointment and sadness?

 

We want to fall in love because the experience makes us feel alive. Our every sense is heightened, our every emotion is intensified. Sometimes it may just last a moment, an hour, an afternoon, sometimes all we are left with are memories. But you have to love like crazy, madly and with passion because there are too many mediocre things in life already and love shouldn’t be one of them. This is what I have always believed in and how I lived by.

Of course, we have loved and been loved. And sometimes that experience in itself, is worth all the heartaches that came with it. Sometimes we think that to develop an open heart, to be truly in love, means that we need to be passive, to allow others to use us, to abuse us, take advantage of us, do what they want with us. But if you are in that frame of thinking when in love, then you better check your emotions at the door my dear.

It is quite true to say that we are driven by two basic motivational forces; fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back, when we are in love, we are open to all that life has to offer with passion and excitement. But we need to overcome the main hurdle, we need to learn to love ourselves first. If we cannot love ourselves, how can we truly love others? Some of us may have figured that out long ago but we are still struggling with it.

The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. And you can’t force love. It’s there or it isn’t. If it’s not there, you’ve got to be able to accept it. If it is there, you’ve got to do whatever it takes to protect the love.

Sometimes we love someone so much, you can’t see yourself without picturing the person. To know what it’s like to touch someone, and feel like you’ve come home. It’s like you’re meant to be together. Some people spend their whole lives looking for that one person. Love is not the promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every minute of the day. That is just being ‘in love’, love itself is what is left when being in love has burned away.